Real Friends' Dan Lambton responds to MAKEOUT's problematic "Secrets"
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Real Friends' Dan Lambton has shared a response to MAKEOUT's problematic song “Secrets,” which goes in for a shock factor to get a point across about a breakup.
“Hello @makeoutofficial. Just here to tell you that you shouldn’t call women whores. There are a lot more creative ways of 'dissing' someone without sounding like a fucking third grader,” Lambton writes.
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They lyrics are noticeably degrading and unapologetic, with lines including “everybody knows that you’re a bitch” and “you blew it with your bullshit you fucking whore.”
Lambton's response is an effort to shed light on the change that is needed, not only by that particular band in that particular instance, but in the industry and world as a whole. As Lambton says: “There are much smarter, clever and generally decent ways to refer to people in these situations that don’t involve using derogatory terms.”
there are much smarter, clever, and generally decent ways to refer to people in these situations that don’t involve using derogatory terms
— Dan Lambton (@donnylumpkins) January 4, 2018
And rather than simply pointing a finger, Lambton explains that he isn't perfect—”This is coming from someone who would make stupid fucking rape jokes at the expense of survivors… Sometimes you need a kick in the ass”—and he hopes that he can spread some awareness after learning from his own mistakes.
Read his thread of tweets below:
Hello @makeoutofficial. Just here to tell you that you shouldn’t call women whores. There are a lot more creative ways of “dissing” someone without sounding like a fucking third grader
— Dan Lambton (@donnylumpkins) January 4, 2018
lol people in my mentions being like “but it’s a fake girl!!!!! Shut up with your male privilege!!!! It’s not even real!!!” I’m sorry, but do you not want people on your side when the people they enable feel like they can call and treat women any way they want?
— Dan Lambton (@donnylumpkins) January 4, 2018
This is coming from someone who would make stupid fucking rape jokes at the expense of survivors. I didn’t “mean it that way,” but luckily there were people there to point out “hey dude…. that is definitely not cool you sound like a moron.” Sometimes you need a kick in the ass
— Dan Lambton (@donnylumpkins) January 4, 2018
I learned what I said was very wrong and inappropriate and now I know how to better joke around without it being at the expense of those that have endured trauma or shamed for outrageous reasons. Just try to look at it that way.
— Dan Lambton (@donnylumpkins) January 4, 2018
I am really trying my best to be an ally. I want to make up for stupid shit I have said and contributed to
— Dan Lambton (@donnylumpkins) January 4, 2018
MAKEOUT responded to his series of tweets, saying they hope to meet with Lambton to talk more and “air out any grievances,” which Lambton said he's looking forward to.
You have no idea how we act or behave, your review even painted a song about depression with the same brush. Fortunately we might cross paths with Dan sometime this year and be able air out any grievances in a respectful/peaceful manner. It’s all love ✌��
— MAKEOUT (@makeoutofficial) January 4, 2018
not might, it is 100% happening. Hoping for positive vibes, looking forward to it
— Dan Lambton (@donnylumpkins) January 4, 2018